{"id":660,"date":"2018-06-15T10:46:00","date_gmt":"2018-06-15T14:46:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.salticid.com\/bookblog\/?p=660"},"modified":"2023-09-22T17:08:52","modified_gmt":"2023-09-22T21:08:52","slug":"how-to-be-an-adult-a-handbook-on-psychological-and-spiritual-integration-david-richo-1991","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.salticid.com\/bookblog\/2018\/06\/how-to-be-an-adult-a-handbook-on-psychological-and-spiritual-integration-david-richo-1991\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Be an Adult: A Handbook on Psychological and Spiritual Integration &#8211; David Richo, 1991"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>This was mentioned in a comment at the great <a href=\"https:\/\/www.askamanager.org\/\">Ask a Manager<\/a>, and the title grabbed me.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;There are ghosts asleep inside every one of us: arcane issues never addressed, ancient griefs never laid to rest, suspicions, self-doubts, banished longings, secret meanings. Something in this book may call one of these ghosts by name. It will then arise from its slumber and begin speaking. &#8230; You are hearing the vote of a part of yourself long ago disenfranchised. When this happens, put the book aside and listen in rapture to the irrepressible &#8216;Yea.'&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>Quoting from Anais Nin&#8217;s diary: &#8220;every day the real caress replaces the ghostly lover&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;&#8230;neediness itself tells us nothing about how much we need from others; it tells us how much we need to grieve the irrevocably barren past and evoke our own inner sources of nurturance.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;The fear of revealing the True Self is disguised in these words: &#8216;If people really knew me, they would not like me.&#8217; We can change that <em style=\"font-size: revert; color: initial;\">sentence<\/em><span style=\"font-size: revert; color: initial;\"> to read: &#8216;I am free enough to want everything I say and do to reveal me as I am. I love being seen as I am.'&#8221;<\/span><\/li>\n<li>affirmation: &#8220;I grant myself a margin of error in my work and relationships. I release myself from the pain of having to be right or competent all the time.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;Allow every feeling and thought to pass through you as good hikers through the woods: taking nothing away, leaving nothing behind. Make no attempt to think them away, to interpret, or to interrupt them no matter how irrational or inconvenient they may seem.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;Recurrent dreams are not so much to be interpreted as to be exhausted. They are played repeatedly like dramas, until integration and closure happen naturally.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>There was an interesting active imagination technique that I would like to go back to someday&#8230;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This was mentioned in a comment at the great Ask a Manager, and the title grabbed me. &#8220;There are ghosts asleep inside every one of us: arcane issues never addressed, ancient griefs never laid to rest, suspicions, self-doubts, banished longings, secret meanings. Something in this book may call one of these ghosts by name. It [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[15],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-660","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-quote-dump"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.salticid.com\/bookblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/660","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.salticid.com\/bookblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.salticid.com\/bookblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.salticid.com\/bookblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.salticid.com\/bookblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=660"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.salticid.com\/bookblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/660\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3558,"href":"https:\/\/www.salticid.com\/bookblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/660\/revisions\/3558"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.salticid.com\/bookblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=660"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.salticid.com\/bookblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=660"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.salticid.com\/bookblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=660"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}