New numbers, new gear, & kidney reunion

New numbers

My six-month labs are in. It was such a busy week that I forgot to hydrate more carefully before the tests, which I meant to do, so perhaps the numbers would have been even better – but they’re fine and stable!

Pre-surgeryDay after6 weeks6 months
Creatinine (mg/dl)0.71.21.11.1
EGFR (ml/min/[height^2)96505654
Protein, urine (mg/dl)1616

I tried to do another timed mile. This go-round I remembered to use the Fitbit running activity instead of the stopwatch, so I have the exact numbers, but what I am now very uncertain about is the actual distance. I knew I had to adjust somewhat for running in lane 8 but figured I was close enough and it wouldn’t make a big difference. So wrong! Track markings are way more complicated than I realized. It reminds me of when, as a beginner, I was asked by another kayaker “Are you using that rock?” I understood each word but couldn’t parse the sentence (he meant, “Are you resting from paddling by taking advantage of the weaker flow of shallow water over that rock?”) I thought I knew how to use a track! Since I’ve learned to distrust any race distances that aren’t USATF-certified, it makes any attempt to benchmark or compare like-to-like somewhat futile…

1.1-ish miles?2021/03/092021/04/212021/06/03
Time11:14?10:48?10:40
Weight113112.4115.4
Resting HR585958
Temp/humidity36 F/62%?59 F/58% ?61 F/85%

New gear

KDA shirt

It took ages until KDA swag was available again, and then more ages for the shirt to actually get printed and arrive, but I finally can represent Kidney Donor Athletes! It’s a really nice shirt – incredibly light and ventilated – so I’ll want to save it for races and not get it all rubbed up with frequent use.

Xero HFS shoes

And I got a pair of new shoes. After giving up on FiveFingers because of the difficulty of getting the right fit, I’ve cycled through a bunch of minimal shoes with a more traditional shape. I got a pair of Xero Prios three or four years ago and loved them – the sole lasted as promised (they’re guaranteed for 5000 miles) but the uppers fell apart eventually. I hiked in them a lot so they got hard wear (including lots of mud). Then I tried a no-name cheapo shoe that was comfortable and nice, but the soles wore through very quickly. So I’m back to Xero, this time the pricier but even-better-for-running HFS. I absolutely love the way these look and they are light as a feather. The wide toe box is super-comfortable. I’m going to try not to get them muddy…

Xero keeps emailing me and asking me to promote their shoes, but their vibe is a little over-enthusiastically salesy – for a while I couldn’t get away from their Youtube commercials and got heartily sick of them. So points off for the marketing, but the product is great.

Best of all: kidney reunion!

Yes, I finally met Chris in person, right after the 6-month mark of our donation, and it was absolutely wonderful! She’s an amazing person and I am so fortunate to get to know her – I would have been delighted about the experience anyway, but this is the icing on the cake.

“Captain” (my kidney) and “Tenille” (Chris’ new kidney) reunited

Training plan

I’ve run three marathons with the same plan, so why break the streak? This is the Non-Runner’s Marathon Trainer schedule, which is probably about the minimum mileage possible. Because I’m such a slow runner, that helps keep the time commitment reasonable. And I’m not aiming for a PR… I don’t think I’ll ever break 5 hours again, but if I could at least beat my New York Marathon time (5:19), that would be fantastic.

I would love to fit some races into the training schedule. Bridge of Flowers, normally in August, hasn’t announced a date yet. The Frozen Yogurt 5K is only tentatively set for 8/27, so I didn’t put that in yet. I see that Impact Racing is currently holding some of their annual events but at different times. Also the registration fees have gone way up, which shouldn’t be a surprise I suppose. I went ahead and signed up for the Black Birch 10-miler (only the second time it’s been held and will be new to me) and the Fort Hill 5K (ran once in 2019).

My current mileage is only about 8-10/week so I’ll start ramping up soon (targets 10 miles week of 5/24, 11 week of 5/31, 12 week of 6/7, 13 week of 6/14, 14 week of 6/21).

 date (Mon)TueThuSatSunTotal
week 1Jun 21333615
week 2Jun 28343616
week 3Jul 5343717
week 4Jul 12353819
week 5Jul 193531021
week 6Jul 264541124
week 7Aug 24641226
week 8Aug 94641428
week 9Aug 164741631
week 10Aug 235851634
week 11Aug 305851634
week 12Sep 65185Black Birch 1038
week 13Sep 135851836
week 14Sep 20585927
week 15Sep 27358Fort Hill 5K19
week 16Oct 43walk 326.229.2

Getting faster again?

I ran a timed mile at the Smith College track at the 3-month mark (March 9th) and again a few days ago, but alas I just used the Fitbit stopwatch, forgetting that it doesn’t save to the dashboard. I’m sure both were under 11 minutes and pretty sure the most recent one was 10:48 or so, which is better than January’s speed. More time since the surgery may be helping, but also I’ve been rigorous about doing the 7-minute workout every day since late January, followed by pull-ups. I’ve done strength workouts off and on before but never kept it up for very long. It’s even more important as I age, and now that I have a long streak going in the phone app it’s much easier to want to continue that investment. Apps creating external accountability really work for me!

I’m half-vaxxed (second Pfizer next Wednesday) and looking forward to May when I’ll be fully vaccinated and will start ramping up to marathon training. I’ll stick to my same Non-Runner’s Marathon Trainer schedule; it’s worked so well in the past, why mess with a good thing?

Hartford, a dream, and videochat with my recipient!

  • It’s official – I registered for the Hartford Marathon, to be held Saturday, October 9, 2021! They’re very thoughtfully giving the option to get a full refund if you change your mind before June 1, and there will be capacity limits and other safety adaptations. I hope the finish won’t change – it’s under the Memorial Arch with hundreds of mums lining the final approach, and it’s been described as one of the most beautiful marathon finishes.
  • Like many people’s, my anxiety dreams evolve to include new aspects of my life – the common “exam I forgot to study for” was joined by “class I forgot to prep” when I briefly taught adult ed, “role I forgot to learn” when doing theater, etc. But I was not expecting a “need to go back and finish kidney donation” dream! In it there was a second surgery I had forgotten about, so I was late and unprepared. I had driven myself to the hospital, neglecting to coordinate with Jonathan and not realizing I’d be in overnight and he wouldn’t be able to pick me up because the car was in Springfield. I got lost trying to get back to my room. But the funniest part was that I went ahead and started the surgery on my own (!) and my wonderful (real life) surgeon, Dr. Kurbanov, was angry at me. I sheepishly told him “I don’t know what I was thinking.” It was such a relief to wake up!
  • Best of all, super-duper exciting and wonderful: I was able to videochat yesterday with my recipient and her husband. Valentine’s day is also National Donor Day so it was extra-appropriate. We have a lot in common, especially our love of reading, and it’s so cool that she lives not that far away. We’ll all get together for dinner someday when the pandemic permits. She looks wonderful – she says her color is back! I was already so happy about having donated, but being in touch with her is the lovely extra cherry on top, the icing on the cake, the bonus I didn’t count on. There’s something about seeing her that feels like tying a bow on the whole experience – visual confirmation that my previous kidney is working and doing its job in its new home. It’s like a halo of joy around the contentment I was already feeling.

New one-bean baselines

On Tuesday I had my six-week post-nephrectomy follow-up – a quick meeting with the coordinator and the surgeon, and a blood draw to establish my new one-kidney creatinine levels. I’ve felt 100% back to normal since about week 4! These are good numbers so I’m pleased.

Pre-surgeryDay after surgery6 weeks out
Creatinine (mg/dl)0.71.21.1
EGFR (ml/min/[height^2)965056

Important side-note: you will often see two EGFR (estimated glomular filtration rate) values, “African-American” and “non-African-American.” This “race correction” is bad science and is one of the many ways the health care system disadvantages people of color, especially black patients, who spend longer on the waitlist if it is used in the algorithm. The Institute for Healing and Justice in Medicine has a helpful toolkit for learning more and helping to end this bias.

To accompany this bloodwork baseline, I timed a one-mile run on the nearby Smith College track. I’ve done this several times over the years but I haven’t properly kept track (pun not intended!) The last time would have been within the past couple of years and I’m certain it was over 10 minutes; a decade or two ago it was under. Normally I use annual races as my benchmarks. I miss them very much; I did run a virtual 5K in August, but it’s hard to keep the pace of a real race. I was over 50 for my fastest 5K ever, where my mile time would have been around 9 1/2 minutes, but that’s race conditions and downhill.

1/20/2020, 10:40am11:14 mile
Weight113
Resting HR58
Temperature/humidity36 F/62%

I was a little surprised not to break 11 minutes, especially because I’m at the low range of my normal weight. I’m definitely slowing down with age, which is to be expected, but maybe even though I’m feeling totally healed, my running has room to come back? This Runner’s World article indicates that from 40 to 70, most runners slow down by about 1% per year. I’ll try to do this timed run on a monthly basis.

I mostly don’t mind aging at all. I keep growing as a person and getting better at dealing with life; each decade I’ve become happier and more fulfilled. But it’s an adjustment to acknowledge that I’m no longer competing with myself, expecting to get faster and stronger over time; now I’m racing the aging process, which will always catch up. My goals have to change to flattening the downward curves – appropriate for the pandemic world.

The really exciting news from this week is that I am now in touch with my recipient via email! Needless to say I won’t share any details in public, but I am so delighted to have a direct connection now. I hope we get to meet in person some day!

Blog reboot #3 – one-kidney marathon

I (Hilary Caws-Elwitt, Northampton MA) donated a kidney to a stranger on December 9th, 2020, one year and one day after I filled out the first interest form at the National Kidney Registry and many years after I started thinking about it as something I might do. I was inspired by the many donors who have gone before, who almost universally say it’s one of the best things they’ve ever done. At not quite 3 weeks post-surgery I am feeling almost 100% and have started running again, and I agree with all those other donors that I would do it again in a heartbeat if I could. But instead I can be an advocate. Kidney Donor Athletes became one of my go-to sites during the long journey to donation and made it clear that donors can do whatever they want physically including marathons and ultras; I’m planning another marathon, ideally in fall 2021, which will be my fourth overall but my first with one kidney. I’m rebooting this blog to document that next marathon, but more specifically to encourage recreational marathoners to consider kidney donation. I think it’s a natural fit for many reasons.

Marathoners are well-suited to donation:

  • We tend to be healthy, so are more likely to be approved as donors
  • Just like running a marathon, donating a kidney is something that most regular people consider a little crazy or even “impossible” and we’ve dealt with those reactions
  • We usually have learned to really listen to our bodies
  • We have the experience of a long-drawn-out planning and preparing process
  • We’ve built physical and mental stamina
  • We can deal with physical discomfort

Motivations to run and to donate can be similar:

  • If one of the reasons you chose to run a marathon was to challenge yourself, to see what you could handle, to tackle a huge project and a huge adventure… you might find that kidney donation scratches those same itches.
  • If you love the camaraderie, community, and feeling of belonging to a tribe of runners, you’ll find something similar in the tight-knit and supportive donor community.
  • If you wanted to savor the feeling of “I am a marathoner,” the identity that nothing can take away – becoming a kidney donor is like that in spades.

And best of all, it directly helps another human being in a way that very few people have the opportunity to do. The US kidney waitlist is over 90,000. There are not enough deceased donor kidneys to meet the need, and living kidneys have better outcomes anyway. Thousands of people die every year waiting for a kidney.

Every single one of [the kidney donors] was so proud of what they did. They all felt, Here is something grand that I did. Here is something unambiguously good, and I can be proud of this for the rest of my life, and whatever else I do and however else I fail as a person, this is something that no one can take away from me. And that’s a big thing in a person’s life. And there aren’t that many chances to do something like that. —Larissa McFarquar, interviewed by Charles Duhigg

I wrote up most of the kidney donation journey on a private forum, since I didn’t want to go public until I was successfully through the process. I’ve adapted and reposted, backdated to when the events actually happened – from just before talking to my doctor to the first follow-up after surgery , and I’ll continue with training for the marathon (hoping for Hartford). It’s super-detailed because that’s what I would have wanted to read as a prospective donor (and I tend to be wordy…) Feel free to contact me with any questions or leave a comment.

Home and on the mend

Even though I couldn’t turn over comfortably, I slept so so much better in my own bed with no noisy roommate! The gas pains subsided over the next couple of days and I started getting better by leaps and bounds – longer walks, able to walk up stairs, sleeping on my side, and finally real pants! By Sunday, four days after surgery, I was doing pretty great. Then my digestion started bothering me – lots of extra gas, low-grade stomach aches like feeling hungry – and it took about a week for it to settle down. Kefir helped for sure. I was back to my very part-time work a week after surgery, able to drive and do small errands.

Two week follow-up

To my surprise the surgeon had said not to do labs yet – they’ll do a blood draw at my 6-week follow-up and that will establish my new baseline. But they did take my blood pressure, which was back to my normal low-ish range (it had been high in the hospital). I saw the social worker, whom I like very much, and this was the very best part: she also works with my recipient and she said something like “You changed her life. You really changed a life.” They passed along my card and it sounds like the recipient will be OK with getting in touch but after things have settled down a little more – the social worker said that sometimes people take a while to believe that the transplant has really taken, and the coordinator said something about her wanting to look like she’s in better shape and not hunched over. Whenever she’s comfortable, even if it’s never, is fine with me. My coordinator asked whether I know David Copperfield – yes, I love Dickens! – she knows I am willing and it always reminds her of “Barkis is willin’,” so that’s our in-joke now – Barkis is willing. The surgeon said I’d only had one dose of antibiotics and that probably wasn’t causing my digestive issues, but that the surgery itself messes with the intestines and they can take a while to settle back down and get used to the new normal. He cleared me to run, do yoga, go hiking and biking, take a bath – basically whatever I want!

Almost 100%

I’m doing really well now – not sleeping great yet but that’s getting better too. I’ve been running a mile or two and doing a little pilates to get my core back in shape. I’m drinking more water just naturally, which is great because that’s a habit I’m going to need to keep up. Interesting that many people say this adventure helped them take even better care of themselves and appreciate their own health even more – I am glad to feel that possibly taking hold.

I would do it again in a heartbeat! All told, I had maybe ~4 hours of quite severe pain, which I knew didn’t mean anything bad and would go away, and the rest was just some discomfort and inconvenience. Totally, totally worth it!!! And having the privilege and opportunity to do something good during this horrible year is extra-sweet.

The Surgery Saga

Pre-surgery

Pre-surgery prep involved special soap, magnesium citrate (ugh), and 3 bottles of foul “strawberry” carb drink, 2 for the night before and 1 for the morning of. I actually slept fairly well but got up at 3:45 to have time for a second shower, my regular morning routine (I’m over 550 consecutive days on Insight Timer and don’t want to break my streak), and still get to the hospital at 5:45. I left time to dance to “Love Will Keep Us Together” (Captain and Tennille), partly for good luck, partly to psych myself up, partly to make Jonathan laugh, and partly to celebrate that THIS IS ACTUALLY HAPPENING! (Up until the day before I kept worrying they would shut down non-essential surgeries). Jonathan dropped me off at the hospital a little early but from there the time flew – got taken to pre-surgery area, IV started, met the anesthesiologist, a transplant fellow, and finally my surgeon showed up in regular clothes right when surgery was supposed to start (7:30am). I reminded him again that I wanted a photo of my kidney.

Surgery

Apparently they had to wait for an OR to clear; I was rolled in about 7:45, transferred to the operating table, and got a heated blanket. I thanked them for the blanket, since what I remember from 3 previous surgeries is waking up freezing, and they said they heat all the fluids etc. to avoid that…

Recovery

Sure enough, when I woke up subjectively seconds later (around 1pm; the surgery took about 3 1/2 hours, and I later heard the old adhesions only added about 10 minutes), I wasn’t cold. They also did a nerve block at the end of surgery so that I wouldn’t have any incision pain for the first 24 hours or so. I felt pretty remarkably good for most of the afternoon; when they wheeled me to my room from recovery, I was able to get up and transfer myself. The only thing bothering me initially was very dry mouth which didn’t go away no matter how much I drank, and made it hard to talk. I did call Jonathan but otherwise stuck to texts and emails.

First few hours – yay!

They didn’t want me walking by myself the first day so I had a yellow “fall risk” bracelet and a bed alarm, which felt really stupid but whatever… I was pretty locked down by the catheter, the IV, and the squeezy boots anyway. The IV was in my left hand but the initial port they had started in my right was still there, sealed off – I was surprised when the phlebotomist came for bloodwork that they couldn’t use it and I had to have a normal arm draw (twice during my stay). I had the bed by the window and for the first hour my roommate was away getting an echocardiogram, so initially I felt pretty good about the setup. I couldn’t really see out the window because the whole bed was forward in the room so I would have had to crane my head. I asked a nice assistant if he could move the bed so I could look out, and he put it at an angle.

I don’t think I mentioned this before, but this medical complex is just across the river from the location of a winter crow roost I’d been to on an Audubon field trip, and on one of my previous appointments I’d seen a staging area in the late morning (about 200-300 crows hanging around, much smaller than the thousands at the roost but still incredibly cool). I was hoping to see some of them, and sure enough around 3 or 3:30 they started streaming overhead. Before I knew about winter roosts, I had seen bunches of crows all flying in the same direction on a visit to my mother-in-law in Rochester, New York. Keep an eye out on winter afternoons – it’s one of those natural phenomena that’s hard to notice but once you do, it’s just so cool to observe and know what’s going on. The clouds had a beautiful evening glow too. I texted everyone I wanted to get in touch with and read the sweet email Jonathan sent to all my family to let them know I was out of surgery and all their nice replies. Various team members stopped by. I was feeling pretty darn good overall – pain only around a 4 on the 0-10 scale – and getting by on just the Tylenol.

Tangent – TV and Google

I don’t typically watch much TV and that was something I was looking forward to! I watched all of Jeopardy! (a rerun), part of a Simpsons episode (see below), and enough Food Factory (National Geographic channel) to get sick of it even though I love that kind of behind the scenes/factory tour stuff. It’s been surprisingly difficult to document that’s what the show was. I thought I remembered the title, and was sure there was a segment on Skippy peanut butter and on a Chuao crunch chocolate bar, but initial Googling didn’t bring it up, presumably because the string “food factory skippy peanut butter” are too generic. Adding “episode” did bring it up – “Working for Peanuts.” My reference librarian background kicks into high gear with this kind of stuff; I’m sure it’s out there and get super-stubborn about finding it, sometimes spending a ridiculous amount of time tracking something down. It is inherently fun for my terrier brain but very frustrating when I come up empty.

First night – boo!

The next dozen hours were pretty grim – this is an unvarnished account – for 3 major reasons.

  1. It turns out that although walking is the best way to clear laparoscopic gas pains long-term, short-term it can severely exacerbate them as the gas rises to the diaphragm and irritates the phrenic nerve (cool term I learned). I was somewhat prepared for the pain from reading experiences on the Facebook living donor group, but thought since I was so eager and willing to walk that it wouldn’t be so bad. But it was – a good 8 on the pain scale except I never got asked that when it was at its worst!  As others have described, it was a stabbing, electric shock feeling in the shoulders (“twingling” is the onomatopoeic word that kept coming to mind), but also like a metal band around the ribs, making it painful to breathe. I knew from my research that the opiate painkillers wouldn’t help. The nursing staff brought me hot towels for my shoulders, which helped a little bit, but the staff was overworked or something because whatever was offered or I asked for took at least 30 minutes to come. A nursing assistant suggested some stretches and self-massage, and ultimately I knew it would go away so I mostly just suffered through it. Each time I walked it would last about an hour at peak and then subside again.
  2. My poor roommate, an elderly lady who spoke Italian with what must have been a heavy southern accent (lots of “Madron!”) and hardly any English, couldn’t navigate her tech and I ended up needing to help her quite a bit (as much as I could which wasn’t much). It first became clear when I was watching the Simpsons on my own TV and she started shouting. It took me a while to realize she was talking to me, trying to tell me she wanted me to switch to the news. I tried to explain that she had her own TV (hers was off) and she could control it herself, but ended up changing the channel until a staff person came in and I could have them turn it on for her. She couldn’t hear anyway because the beds are set up so the speaker is on the remote control which is attached to the bed. Then for the rest of my stay, I would need to use the button to call the nurse for her because she couldn’t figure it out. I never knew exactly what she needed or wanted (we had a curtain separating us) but each time it would take someone at least 15-30 minutes to come, during which she’d be yelling and crying and I kept saying I had pushed the button and hoped someone would come but didn’t know if she could understand me… it was pretty awful. I only slept a couple of hours in fragments, and it seemed like any time I fell asleep she would wake up and need something. I felt really bad for her, especially when staff who didn’t realize she spoke Italian would try to talk to her in Spanish. They sometimes used a translation interface but it never seemed to understand what she was saying (because of the accent maybe?) It would have been very cool and Star Trek-y if it had worked right.
  3. I knew I risked having caffeine withdrawal, but foolishly didn’t think to ask for black coffee first thing in the afternoon (I never drink coffee after noon because I have insomnia, but of course I should have known I wouldn’t sleep well that night anyway). A headache started late evening, and sure enough – skip the rest of the paragraph if you want to avoid gross stuff – it turned into a classic caffeine withdrawal migraine complete with vomiting. All over myself because I couldn’t get up and didn’t have a container. And then I had to just lie in it for quite a while because the nurse was helping my roommate and couldn’t leave her, and the assistant was elsewhere. The poor nurse could hear me and kept apologizing – I told her it was OK, and it really was. At least I was on a liquid diet (a reason to actually be thankful for the bowel prep!) and humans are waterproof and sturdy… and the Stoic/Mr. Money Mustache voluntary discomfort principle, which has helped me so much under so many circumstances, sure came in handy. A low point for sure. Once the nurse was free to help me clean up, the fresh johnny felt really good. I eventually got an anti-nausea med (there was supposed to be a standing order but there wasn’t) but I think it was already past where it did anything.

Plus a lot of little reasons: catheter discomfort, restless legs, too hot, couldn’t reach the things I had brought with me, every request took forever.

Next day – going home

Even though I was so short of sleep, I didn’t feel particularly exhausted or anything, and once the day broke things got better incrementally. Over the course of the morning I shed the unused IV and the catheter. People kept checking my incisions and saying they looked good – nowadays they use  surgical glue (way better than the metal staples I had for my first surgery!), which is waterproof and eventually peels off on its own. There are 3 half-inch incisions spaced out horizontally below the belt line around to my side, and one longer one (where they actually extracted the kidney), maybe 3 inches, very near my old bikini-line abdominal scars. My surgeon was careful to go between muscle fibers as much as possible, which has made healing way easier (and much less risk of hernia etc.) I asked multiple times for a walk, and the guy who was going to take me kept saying it would be another little while; finally I got the fall bracelet and bed alarm removed so I was able to go myself and told him he was off the hook when I saw him. He was super-friendly like everyone else but it had literally been two hours since I had first asked. I also had to remind the nurses multiple times to give me my Tylenol which was supposed to be routinely every 6 hours and was more like 7 or 8. Perhaps it was all related to the hospital system being super-stressed with covid, but that was part of what made me really eager to get out of there. Whenever I saw the team they reassured me I was ahead of the curve in terms of what I needed to do to go home. I finally got solid food for lunch, which wasn’t bad (veggie lasagna and ice cream) especially compared to the liquid diet where even the things I theoretically like (juice, sherbet) tasted chemically and gross.

I forgot to say that I had asked about my recipient and hadn’t heard anything until early evening, when they said my kidney was doing well for her – that was the best news, and really reassuring. I had brought a card for her which I was able to give to one of the transplant team; not sure when they were going to give it to her but I was glad to get that box checked off.

Finally around 1 they asked me if I wanted to go home and I started trying to figure when Jonathan should come for me… I knew everything would take forever and it sure did. I had already changed back into the comfortable dress I’d arrived in and was assembling my stuff when my primary surgeon came by for the first time – he said it didn’t look like I had surgery! They called for transport around 2pm and the person finally came around 2:45 – Jonathan was already waiting – to take me by the pharmacy for discharge meds and out to the car. The wheelchair ride started aggravating the gas pains again and the ride home was pretty painful, but it was so great to see Jonathan and to be on my way. It’s really only about 20 minutes from the hospital to home – we are incredibly lucky to be so close.

Thunderbirds are GO!

The coordinator consulted with the whole team and they are all confident in my safety (which I was too) and that elective surgeries won’t be canceled unless things get truly terrible here – which they might… Jonathan and I talked at great length and I decided to go ahead but to wait to inform my family until closer to. So, pre-surgery testing today!

  • Covid test – just a long, somewhat uncomfortable Q-tip, not the brain scrape people have mentioned. No wait – I got there early and was done before my actual appointment time. Still waiting for results.
  • 9 tubes of blood, not too bad. The phlebotomist was so nice and said she’d be seeing me again. The whole team has been wonderful; I feel very fortunate in my transplant center.
  • Meeting with the coordinator – my recipient is female and middle-aged, just like me! There’s a slight possibility we might get to say hello post-surgery/pre-discharge, but no promises of course and it’s up to how she feels.
  • A bag of stuff – magnesium citrate for bowel prep, 3 bottles of pre-surgery Ensure (blech!), special soap for washing
  • Met with my social worker in person for the first time – I really liked her. She also has run 3 marathons, loved hearing our Carl Kasell answering message from when I was on Wait Wait Don’t Tell Me, and so I got to tell her about being on Jeopardy! – and it turns out my coordinator’s son lurves J! and I shared my videos/blog posts with them
  • Meeting with the financial coordinator, pharmacist, and a surgeon (who will be attending, not the primary). I will automatically get a TAP block for abdominal pain, yay. No surprises there except:
  • They are taking the left kidney, with two arteries and one vein, over the right with one artery but three veins(!) I will keep the Captain (Darryl Dragon) and donate (Toni) Tennille no matter which is which.
  • Confirmed: no visitors/companions at all – Jonathan will drop me off and pick me up when I’m discharged. I’m fine with that – makes it easier in some ways.

Ugh, Covid!

Oh ugh. I was about to send emails to my close family notifying them of the donation & surgery date (I haven’t told them a thing yet) and my coordinator calls to check on me with regards to the covid spike. Because this surgery is totally unnecessary for me, they are more hesitant about bringing me in. And Dec 9th will be at the peak of post-Thanksgiving-foolish-get-togethers surging – our area isn’t as bad as some, but positivity is over 4% as of last week and cases are climbing. I don’t want to postpone! But I also don’t want to do anything risky, and I don’t want to freak out my family if it turns out they cancel on me anyway… My coordinator is going to talk to the team and get back to me. Ugh!

Clarification: Think of this as a cry of frustration, not a decision to plow ahead. I don’t want to skip travel and parties and movies either but I do/will. “I don’t have to like it” is our big motto around here for the things we know we need to do but resent. Anyway, I’ll be guided by my team (I haven’t heard back from my coordinator yet). If we have to postpone, it will probably be until spring at the earliest and I’ll need to retake all the tests. A very tiny, invisible-to-the-naked-eye deal compared to what 2020 has taken from so many.

Silver lining (I can almost always find at least one): if surgery is cancelled I won’t have to do bowel prep on my birthday!

I thought going into this that it was akin to running a marathon. I’ve done that 3 times (looking forward to doing another someday) and it’s sure proved to be an apt comparison. Hold you head up and keep going…